This is article #3 for the yet-to-be-named personal development section of Medium Membership.

Personal development concepts often end up being fragmented into tiny little niches. This one, Hygge, has been hiding out on interior design blogs. So either you’ve been hearing about Hygge for years, or, like me, you’re running across the word for the first time.

I knew the concept though. I grew up in a city, San Francisco. Then I moved to the Midwest, spending seven years in Iowa and Missouri.

My experience of the Midwest had a rewarding, casual socialness to it. Good friends were available and we saw each other regularly. The activities were often very casual: grilling, watching football, drinking. That sort of socializing felt like the norm. And as a result, I had many people who I felt very close to.

Then I went back to the cities, and friendships actually got harder. I knew tons of people in San Francisco, but they were spread out all over. And they have crazy calendars. The nature of those friendships were different — exciting, but not as reliable.

You’re going to read Andrew Merle’s Hygge piece and draw your own conclusions about adding more happiness to your life. But the above was mine — how do I have more Hygge friendships?

In NYC, we nailed the Hygge friendship for awhile. Great friends lived downstairs from us and we spent time with them, unplanned, at least once per week. They’ve now moved and we’re getting ready to move into a hundred-unit apartment building. The thing I most want to post on our new building’s mailing list: “Looking for Hygge. Likes: GoT, NBA, Negroni’s”

Human potential busy body. Founded @coachdotme, @bttrHumans, @bttrMarketing. Helped @medium @calm. Current work focus: Habit Coach Certification.

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